Unfinished personal business
I am comparing unfinished personal business to sloppy clothes, with shirt tails hanging out of pants and shoes trip-ably untied, hair dishevelled. Whether we like to believe this or not, our dangling details are not well hidden, no matter how hard we try to disguise our angst and overall discomfort with life. In the world of truth detection, there are those little things called tells… signs and signals that come off of a person that indicate there is something amiss. If you pay really close attention to the people around you, you will see them dear one. They are detectable.
A tell is information
A tell is information ready to be shared, exposed, factored in, utilized, calculated. Tells are unspoken communication and they speak loudly, clearly, sometimes softly, of what is going on inside of each of us. Again, study the people all around you: there is a secret bunch, the ones that can tell what is happening in others. They see with eyes that connect dots; they have keen comprehension and sharpened understanding. They can see you, and me: nothing passes their consciousness without assessment and appraisal. The kind hearted variety of observers give comfort when they see distress in another; conversely, the cold hearted version of the watcher may be that proverbial wolf in sheep’s clothing we all get warned about, ready to pounce on the vulnerable, emotionally disheveled. I could go in multiple directions here, but alas, I must get to the point.
The point is you
The point is you. You have some unfinished personal business, don’t you dear reader? You know it is true, because you are reading this and wondering, can people see my pain? Can they see that I feel broken inside? What if no one can see, no one cares and I remain this way forever? Who can see me, who can tell, that I am all alone in here?
Take a look at your emotional state
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| What do you tell yourself? |
You may feel like you have contained yourself, got a hold of all of your life essentials while feeling lost and discombobulated at the exact same time. This is your tell, dear one, that you have some dangling details, unfinished personal business that requires your attention. Change starts within with self-awareness, honesty in the searching for information that leads to freedom: that leads to the chains of bondage being broken. I do not wax philosophic, I am being oh so practical. Take a look at your emotional state. Is your shirt hanging out of your pants, half tucked? What about your shoes, are the laces tied neatly? Your hair, have you washed and groomed? We can see you. You cannot hide. Take care of your emotional details, they matter. Stop dangling and start doing the clean up that is necessary for your well being, for your soul.
Becoming the most honest person you know
What does the clean up look like, you ask? It is honesty, admitting, being sorry, sad, forlorn, sorrowful, and wanting to make amends by owning all of your decisions, indiscretions and dreadful mistakes without excuses or rationalizations. It is facing yourself in the mirror and saying I really messed up and I am sorry, not for the fall out, but for the mistakes, for choosing wrongly, badly, horrendously. Making the most of your current situation will not save you from making similar mistakes unless of course, you are willing to do the gruelling work of painful self-assessment. Your integrity and character strength depend on you becoming the most honest person you know.
Bottom line
Bottom line dear reader, what is your bottom line? Can you tell, what a tell is? Can you see them as you gaze at yourself? What we see, you feel… you are quite simply, lousy at hide-and-seek.
